Know there is a living presence that will always be there to see you through whatever occurs. You may call it a higher self, an inner teacher, a spirit guide, a guardian angel, a disincarnate bodhisattva … and after all these are simply words. But know this, however; that to obtain the fullness of this assistance you are required to do two things: firstly to listen, and then secondly to do something to help yourself.
As close observation of oneself and others proceeds it soon becomes clear that a large percentage of our emotions, attitudes and actions are repetitive routines and programs – “knee-jerk reactions”. As a rule this process is not only useful but highly efficient. However it is rather less helpful where “bad” habits are concerned; those habits we would love to get rid of, but somehow seem unable to control.
The most powerful way to overcome this disability is, as usual, founded on mindfulness. Once you see what is going on, you then train yourself to follow a new program. Whenever you see the button for the current ground-in reaction>action you want to eradicate arise in your mind, instead of automatically pressing it you train yourself to press a new button which reads
…..PAUSE … REFLECT … CANCEL
You will have now created enough space and time to move forward with a fully conscious course of action in which you are both in control and in concord.